A growing body of work is suggesting that the human brain is very similar regardless of sex. Another growing body of work is suggesting that both sexes want exactly the same things in life. These studies imply that the two sexes are not as different as we are told as we grow up.
But when I discuss this topic with folks, they just don't want to know, don't want to hear about it. The denial is almost absolute. They put their hands over their ears and close their eyes. Folks WANT the sexes to be different. Why? When pushed, most of them feel it just wouldn't be very sexy if everyone were the same; it's what's different that makes us attractive to the opposite sex.
Huh. So where does that leave competitive women? Or submissive men? Where do these folks fit into the grand scheme of things? Well, they are usually labeled as odd and shunted off to the side with all the other fetishists.
However, I believe that current 'norms' in sexual behaviour are actually fetishist and, further, if we just allowed folks to be themselves, sexual behaviour might ease into a more natural expression of honest emotion or honest desire as opposed to being rife with power plays as it is now. Who cares who's submissive? Who cares who's in charge? Who cares who makes the most money? It's just sex.
Society has so much to say about sexuality -- 'normal' behaviours, professions, even colours to wear. Such small boxes to force people into, very tight patterns of living. Now. Why does society push so hard if people are naturally this way? Surely, there wouldn't be so much pressure to conform if folks really developed gendered behaviours naturally.
Answer? You wouldn't have to say a thing if folks naturally developed stereotypical behaviours along gendered lines. So, so. People do not naturally develop gendered behaviours. They conform to them. And some folks at great cost.
And wouldn't it be great if you could just be yourself? Because, honestly, I think that's sexier.
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